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8 Social Media Pointers for Parents of Kids with Special Needs

They say that the Internet is making knowledge more accessible than ever and aiding us in our abilities to work together -- and that those things should be blessings. So how can we parents use it to our kids’ greatest advantage?

Help Them Help Us

We can work with and through those organizations that are working on behalf of our kids. We can help them help us.* (Here I mainly have in mind our health, advocacy, research, human service, and education nonprofits.)

1. Take their polls, surveys, etc.

Health care is being redesigned everywhere to be more patient- and family-centered. There should be significant value in telling organizations and institutions who you are and what you think. The more demographic info you can provide, the more questions you can answer, the greater your participation in focus groups, the better. EXAMPLE: To promote and accelerate research, the CP Research Registry is encouraging parents to enroll their children who are diagnosed with cerebral palsy at.

2. Use their platforms and creation spaces

Opportunities to do things like ask or answer questions in forums, comment on blog posts, and add wiki content are opportunities for you to learn and contribute while you simultaneously shape and improve their offerings. An EXAMPLE of an active community? Mommies of Miracles on Facebook, the “world’s largest virtual support group of mothers of children with exceptional needs.”

3. Exercise your citizenly rights

Many organizations make it as easy as click--click--click for parents to communicate with their elected officials on legislation or otherwise voice their opinions on policy matters. EXAMPLE: Vote 4 Autism is an advocacy campaign of the Autism Society. Its “Take Action” links let you instantly tell your representatives where you stand.

The Beauty of a New Digital Infrastructure

Organizations can be potent forces but by no means do they have a corner on good ideas, creativity, and the like. The beauty of our new digital infrastructure? It gives us opportunities to try our own formulas: for finding and attracting resources; for crafting solutions that begin and end with our own, one-of-a-kind kiddos.

1. Approach things the way an organization does

Use low- or no-cost social media to blog, tweet, or post your own original content. Accumulate followers. Raise questions. Give advice. Become a force for good in your own right. Take Michele Shusterman of CP Daily Living for EXAMPLE. Michele went from being only [sic] a mom -- to a blogger -- to a strong and consistent advocate for the CP community.

2. Form your own grassroots communities

Take things a step further and form groups around specific challenges or opportunities. Make something bigger and weightier happen by working together. An EXAMPLE of a grassroots Facebook community: Parents of Kids with Neurological Disorders. (Food for thought for Child Neurology Foundation  and Children’s Neurobiological Solutions Foundation: How could you support the efforts of said community in ways that would also enhance your own organizational value?)

Take Care of the Internet

We stand a better chance of advancing our kids’ various causes if we take care along the way to take care of the Internet itself, i.e., cultivate its good health. Practically speaking, I’m suggesting we should:

1. Help make information reusable and easy to find

How? Simply by doing things like tagging (labeling) and linking your work.

2. Document the good stuff

Summarize what you discover, what you hope, what you fear, etc. and put it out there in formats that can be readily consumed and passed around. Add to the collective.

3. Make it a good environment for knowledge

Your job as a parent is to do the necessary work of caring for your child and her or his various communities. As it relates to working online, I say: Don’t intentionally mislead. Don’t make personal attacks. Don’t be close-minded to new ideas. Do first check your facts. Do do well by your son or daughter. Has this been helpful? What am I leaving out? Please let me know.

Bonus Tip

For some other ways you can help your nonprofits help you, here’s a collection of big and small “calls to action” -- specific requests for help -- some of our special needs organizations have been making over the past couple of months.

*Another way of putting it, hearkening back to 1961: Ask not what our nonprofits can do for you, ask what you can do for our nonprofits!